mamagina asked: Unique situation. So no normal anything to this. I am a single mother to a daughter-whom the father is not involved. I met a muslim Egyptian man Mahamet online and have been talking since. The site has a choice of type of relationship seeking (both want marriage). He has been living in california on a visa for the past 6-7 years. (ironically same city my brother used to attend school, and also had egyptian roommates). I don’t really claim a religion but am very spiritual and open to all faiths. He is busy, I am..this is why we chose online dating. The more we talk the more I fall. We even have debates but have an understanding and respect for one another. We talk on the webcam and talk on the phone everyday or every few days when we are busy. We don’t feel the need to push something if it isn’t right so we want to take time. But in our unique situations we don’t have time. I financially will be forever doomed to poverty until I finish my schooling (only a quarter finished). I am relying on my family for everything, and I wish for my situation to be different. I have very traditional ideals woman at home with family, man working. I want my daughter to have a father-to have siblings, to have a traditional home life. Mahamet and I seem to have very similar goals and are commited to the idea of marriage and just very equal and based on love. Of course web is nothing like meeting so this I am concerned. He and I do not have funds to be travelling, so it’s as though we either marry or not. I have researched much on islam, foreigners marrying for visas, online dating, quick marriages etc. But I thought good old fashioned advice best! I have read people married after 6 weeks of dating and being married for 32 years! You never really know a person until you live with them. Even dating won’t let you know who the real person is, until you live with them. I very much need my family’s approval as they are my whole support but in the past they don’t support anyone that I love! And the one that they liked previously wasn’t what I call a man! My heart and mind tells me this is very right and that we just need to meet once. He is very open-minded, driven, and a hard-worker. He possesses many great qualities. Is there a time too soon to marry? I don’t want to go against my family-but also there are reasons to marry besides love. Many countries marry for other purposes. The two of us would really help each other out in many ways. We both don’t drink, smoke, anything bad, are very spiritual. We don’t want to have sex before marriage. But it’s like how could we date for a year possibly with no sex…then I would only think of him as a friend..very confusing I know. hopefully this makes sense. Because I need some advice! Trying to better our situations, looking for a father for my daughter and a husband life partner. Let me know if I was too vague? THank you
foreign people do not mean problems. Problems occur in marriage regardless of cultural differences. He was raised biculturally as was I-so we know this. That is ignorant to say he could be a terroist go read a qu’ran. P.s. terroism is a fake it was an inside job by the good ol’ USA. I am not in love. But I can see myself becoming in love. I would say two people can become strong. Anyone have any good advice?
My father met my mother out of country-wrote for years and then married with only getting together one week. Be more specific in WHY or WHY NOT.
Alma
